Friday, May 2, 2014

20 Months as Mrs.


A lot has been happening these last two months and it seems that time has positively flown by. I am now closer and closer to celebrating my second wedding anniversary. I still feel like a newlywed- how can that be?!

And speaking of our anniversary- we had planned to go on a fabulous weekend getaway to celebrate. We don't get to travel nearly as much as we'd like so our anniversary weekend was the perfect excuse. Unfortunately, some of our other family members chose the same weekend to get married, so we'll be celebrating their love instead of ours. I've honestly been pretty salty about it, but I'm trying to change my mentality and get into celebration mode. Love is love and we could all use a little more of it in our lives :)

But anywho, we're not at two years, just yet. I've got some catching up to do as a 20 Months as Mrs...



finances

Taxes really killed us this year. We were already not doing so hot after Chuck's employer messed up his paychecks a couple months back, so to see that we're going to owe a huge amount this year was upsetting to say the least. We're trying to recall our lessons learned last year in our Financial Peace University class and get more serious about cutting out unnecessary spending and bring more moolah in. Chuck has the opportunity to work extra hours if he makes plans ahead of time. So that's definitely an opportunity we want to utilize!

living

Our lease is up at the end of September so we're trying to decide what the future holds for us: will we continue living in Chuck's small hometown or will we move into the same metro area where we work? I love the idea of living in a big city again- there's just so many fun things to do! And cutting down our work commute is something we are both in dire need of. But there's something to be said for living near family. And quite frankly, I don't want to move again. I haven't lived in one place for more than a year since graduating high school, plus moving is expensive! I'd be content to stay put for another year just so I don't have to pack again!

family

I've always counted myself blessed that I'm one of the "lucky ones" who seriously hit the jackpot with my in-laws. I know having a close relationship with a significant other's parents is not something all that common, so I don't for a second take for granted my relationship with Chuck's family. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel like there was some tension there. In terms of how we relate to our families, Chuck and I are polar opposites. My family is small, independent and not exactly socially-inclined. We see each other a few times a year, email regularly, call sporadically and still manage to remain very close. If I lived in the same town as my parents, I would still likely only see them once or twice a month because that's just the kind of people we are. Chuck, on the other hand, is visiting with his parents about 2-3 times per week. And he is growing tired of answering questions concerning my whereabouts. It's hard for me to be over there the amount of time I feel is expected of me. For starters, I'm just not inclined to spend THAT much time with family. Not to mention the sheer volume of people in his family is incredibly overwhelming for me. It's something that's a constant struggle for us- striking the balance between my own comfort level and engaging with his family so they know they are loved and appreciated.

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Just writing that, I feel like our relationship is so much more...mature. Our "issues" are real married people issues. Weird. With that being said though, I think the thing that continues to make our marriage work is the fact that neither of us takes anything too seriously. We're both silly, childish and non-confrontational. And it works for us. The sense of youthful playfulness that is always present in our marriage is what's going to keep us going for the next 50 years :)

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2 comments:

  1. Congrats!! you guys look so cute:) xoxo Katie

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  2. Congrats on 20 months! I love the idea behind this post!

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