Goodbye 1%

This week, I'm going to forego counting my Sunday Blessings because there's something weighing heavy on my heart that I need to come clean about.

I've always been someone picky. Someone with high standards. Someone who carries the bad habit of pointing out the faults of others. However, my high standards and self-righteousness left me somewhat shielded from the fact that this is not a healthy way to live in a relationship. Needless to say, I was blindsided last night when I realized that this is exactly what I've been doing to Chuck.

Chuck is the model of what it means to be a good man. To be chivalrous. To be kind. To be a gentleman. He is so enamored with me that he has completely altered his lifestyle to ensure my comfort and my faith in him as my future husband. He has gone from steak and burgers to tofu and kale in .3 seconds. And from a pack a day to zero in an even shorter amount of time.

So why is it that this same man who exceeds 99% of my expectations is subjected to my judgement when he falls short in the 1% category? I think I have been so spoiled by his attentiveness and love that I'm thrown for a loop when he can't quite measure up to the pedestal I've placed him on.

This was an awful thing to learn about myself and I'm trying to figure out before I become a nagging wife how to let the judgement go and just bask in the beauty of the amazing man who is committing his life to me.

I'd like to ask for your prayers for me as I learn how to become a better person and a better partner to the man who has stolen my heart and instilled in me a faith in goodness, trust and love that no one else ever has.


  1. I'm proud of you for acknowledging the fact that you do hold these high standards and there is something wrong with it in order for your relationship to grow! Love is kind, patient and most importantly love is gentle to ones heart. Find the good in him once again and allow him to be him no matter what! It's hard but it's something you will learn to do as you grow and as much as i love bryan and all our differences, i never imagined us to be together for 14 years...so yes it is possible to find strength in your love through your differences. Just remember that selfishness is not who you want to be and I promise he'll love you even more!

  2. "I'm yours and that's it, forever" ;)I love you so much Bee

  3. thanks so much for posting this. i actually really needed this reminder today for my own relationship. it really is crazy how much that 1% can negatively effect the so much better side of the 99%.
    happy sunday!!!
    xx jes


  4. I hear you. But my 1% is more for the world and people around me. Mine comes from being hurt so many times by others I thought I could trust. You'll learn to let it go. Just keep praying and having faith. It will come in time, but don't get down on yourself or angry when it does not come fast. You love your man and he loves you. Keep your chin up girl :)

  5. I know the feeling, girl. I have the same problem, I'm picky and want things a certain way... I think the main thing I nag about is tidiness at home....which both of us are bad at but which I'm the only one who cares about. I think we all have areas like that, like your 1%, it's simply human.

  6. Visiting from iBlog4me comment love day! You sound like you have an amazing life & a fun wedding up ahead!! Me & my bf are also living off student loans & we have decided to put off getting married until we graduate because of the huge expense, so I'm interested to see how things work out for you!! Good luck in everything!


  7. Hello,
    I just found your blog, I am so happy I did. You write so beautifully. I have been married for almost 15 years and I am so blessed to say that I married a Man who is so much more than I deserve. I will pray for you sweet girl, but the fact that you are asking for prayers in this area, lets me know that you are going to be a wonderful wife to that lucky fella!!! God Bless. I am a new follower from wwwthreewishes.blogspot.com