tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269431956658509659.post924087769582443409..comments2023-07-30T11:23:49.716-04:00Comments on (Bee)autiful Blessings: the beauty of sacrificeKaity B.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11121029548598878286noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269431956658509659.post-13777930077821028082011-08-11T17:40:42.541-04:002011-08-11T17:40:42.541-04:00First I'd just like to say I was on the phone ...First I'd just like to say I was on the phone with you when you discovered your debit card! <br /><br />Second, the transition in thinking you mentioned from I/my/me to we/us/our is without a doubt the biggest change that had to happen in my relationship, and every relationship I imagine. The world tells us to focus on ourselves and to do what will make us, as an individual successful. Even down to your relationship. The reality is that once you truly commit to another person you as an individual cease to exist. Absolutely everything we do has to be preceded by the question "How will this affect my partner?" It's a completely foreign and unnatural way of thinking. In my short 9 months of marriage I have already learned that the root of every problem you will ever encounter in a marriage, or any serious relationship, is selfishness. As I once heard at a wedding, a marriage is not a bilateral covenant. It is two unilateral covenants coming together. That is - you agree to hold up your part of the deal even when your partner doesn't hold up theirs. It has been my goal these past 9 months and I definitely don't succeed often. But when you truly do focus all of your energy on your partner things go infinitely smoother. Prayers and good luck to both of you as you begin to live your lives for each other! <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com