A Person is a Person, No Matter How Small

I woke up this morning, checked my e-mail and saw this article. The headline glared: "Reality show star Duggar suffers miscarriage." Michelle Duggar was expecting her twentieth child..at 45 years old. The odds were not in her favor. I responded in disgust. Serves her right. It is completely wrong that someone would be so reckless and irresponsible in bringing children into this world. Is giving birth to 19 kids really necessary when there are so many children in the world in need of stable homes?!

And then I stopped. I couldn't believe the hurtful things that were flowing through my mind toward someone I've never even met! No one ever "deserves" a miscarriage. Regardless if it was child #1 or child #20, Mrs. Duggar formed a relationship with that baby. I'm sure she had already begun thinking of names, picking out baby clothes and preparing a nursery. I've had wonderful friends, friends-of-friends and even my own family suffer from miscarriages. It is a heartbreaking and tragic circumstance regardless of who you are. How would I feel if I knew someone was delighting in the misfortunes of the people I love? So how on earth is there any justification in me doing the same to someone else's friend, wife or mother? The answer is- there isn't.

So often, we justify heartbreaking tragedies by saying that a person somehow "deserved it" or "brought it upon themselves." As much as I may complain about society ills and the evils of humanity, I do believe in the depths of my heart that every person has the capacity for goodness and love. No person deserves a life filled with unhappiness and suffering.

I pray that we all might remember that when we find pleasure in seeing others hurt in attempt to lessen our own. We all hurt, but is there really any relief in someone else experiencing the same pain? The only thing we can do to combat hate, evil and suffering in this world is by loving as much as we can, representing good as best we can and being kind to everyone we meet.

I don't know why, but all the while I was pondering that article I just kept thinking of the quote from Horton Hears a Who- "A person is a person, no matter how small." A person is a person, regardless of the skeletons in their closet. A person is a person, no matter the hurt they've inflicted on others. And a person is a person no matter how many kids they bring into the world.

Every person deserves love.


  1. Excellent post. So very true. I had very similar feelings on the dugger situation, which I heard about through blogs. I have been working very hard on being compassionate to all people - from people who hurt my family in the past and can't seem to accept that we don't want them in our lives to the people who make decicions I disagree with. It's an uphill battle, but I'm sure it will be worth it.

  2. Thanks for this post. I appreciate your honesty and think that you have come to the right conclusion.

    One thing that I have found helps me is the thought that every person can decide for themselves how they want to live their lives, and we need to respect that God has a plan for every individual at each and every stage of their lives. We don't know what's God's plan is in using that person so it is our jobs as Christians to love one another, regardless of how different their lives are to ours.

    What do you think?

  3. A very honest post that shows us compassion and love are the key. Everybody, being created by God, has the right to be happy. Pain and challenges are part of life but we should never wish them for others. We should instead pray they can face them with faith and strength.
    I thought like you once so I know where you are coming from.
    But we can all change our thoughts and improve ourselves.
    Let's love takes the place in every situation. Stay well.

  4. Very nicely put MarieHarmony.

  5. That is a wonderful quote..thank you for sharing!